Are You Having A Hard Time Letting Go?
Cindy Selvaggio Shumaker
Published on 01 August 2012
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I saw a photograph on the internet about a year ago and it left a deep impression. So much so, that I still think about it to this day.
The bike rider in the photo had stopped riding his bike and was standing in front of a make shift wall. The wall was constructed of several black panels of material measuring approximately 8 feet tall by 4 feet wide and the panels were hanging side by side. They were securely attached at the top to a metal frame by oodles of silver rivets and wire.
Every inch of the 4 black panels, which filled the width of the photograph, was covered with chalk graffiti. I began reading the words which included things like “ego”, “success”, “failure”, “not letting go”, “learning to love”….
I had never seen a wall like this before and I felt my eyes drifting to the wooden sign at the top of the black panels: “YOUR FEARS ERASED HERE DAILY”
I got goose bumps as my mind started wandering and I mentally transported myself and envisioned that I was standing in front of that black wall, chalk in hand, writing my biggest fears on the wall.
I then visualized myself stepping back and waiting a few minutes as the words slowly began to fade until I could no longer see them. Were they really gone forever?
I stood there for a few more minutes watching the wall and they never reappeared. I took a short walk and came back - still not there!
When I thought about that visualization and that black wall, I wondered...What if I could scribble my fears on a wall every day and slowly watch them disappear.
My mind started to wander, thinking of the possibilities.
Then it hit me – we DO have a wall and it is called GOD!
I AM supposed to hand over all my fears, worries, concerns and doubts to him every day.
I AM supposed to let go and walk in the faith that my fears will be erased.
So why is that so difficult for most of us? Why do we allow ourselves to live in fear and to be filled with worry and panic?
Maybe it’s because we’re afraid to trust? We want to actually see the proof; actually watch the fears disappear as I did that day watching the fears disappear from the wall. Because in doing so, it solidifies the process and makes it seem more real.
Today, I have promised myself that I will work on the process of trusting in God, letting go of my fears and walking in faith without looking back for any proof.
If you are like me and need help easing the process of letting go and trusting in GOD or a higher power, I have written a tapping script that you may find useful.
Remember to change the words to fit your personal situation so it resonates with you!
Start with the Karate chop point.
•Karate chop point:
“Even though I have this fear, I love and accept myself anyway”
“Even though I’m scared, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
“Even though I have a hard time letting go, I love who I am anyway”
Round One:
EB: This fear
SE: It has been on my mind all day
UE: I have tried to divert my attention and think of other things
UN: But that was only a temporary fix
CH: I want to think more pleasant thoughts
CB: I want to focus on positive ideas
UA: I am still so scared
HD: I wish I knew the outcome
WR: The fear of the unknown is stressing me out
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: This situation reminds me of _______ (something from your past that had a negative outcome)
SE: That was a scary time for me
UE: I don’t want to repeat that time in my life
UN: But maybe this time will be different
CH: Maybe the outcome will actually be pleasant
CB: I hadn’t thought of that before
UA: I like this new thought
HD: There is a very good possibility everything may be just fine
WR: I am starting to feel a lot better about this situation
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this fear
SE: I am proud of myself for turning this around
UE: I choose to imagine a picture perfect outcome
UN: My heart is starting to feel lighter
CH: The gray cloud is starting to lift and the sun is starting to peek through
CB: My fear is vanishing just like the chalk graffiti on that wall
UA: I choose to let go!
HD: This is a very freeing feeling
WR: I feel like I can breathe now
Round Four:
EB: I know that God will be handling all my problems today
SE: That is one less thing for me to worry about
UE: God doesn’t need any help from me
UN: He is the one in control
CH: He is erasing my fear right now
CB: I don’t feel the need to look over my shoulder any more
UA: To see if my fear still exists
HD: I am going to relax now
WR: I am going to have an awesome, fun filled day!
Showering you with blessings of a fearless day and a calmer life!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker
Here is a diagram and explanation of the tapping points. I have also included the areas of the body that are directly affected by tapping these acupressure points.
Locating the Tapping Points
The Sore Spot (Tender Spot):
You can use the sore spot OR the Karate chop point – I choose the Karate chop point just because it is easier and more convenient.
Either one will work fine, it is your preference.
If you choose to use the sore spot, this area is located in the upper left or right portions of the chest.
Go to the base of the throat about where a man would knot his tie.
Poke around in this area and you will find a U shaped notch at the top of your sternum (breastbone).
From the top of that notch go down 3 inches toward your navel and over 3 inches to your left (or right).
You should now be in the upper left (or right) portion of your chest.
If you press vigorously in that area (within a 2 inch radius) you will find a “Sore Spot.” This is the place you will need to rub while saying the affirmation.
This spot is sore when you rub it vigorously because lymphatic congestion occurs there.
Karate Chop:
It is located in the middle of the fleshy part on the outside of the hand between the top of the wrist bone and the base of the baby finger.
This point is associated with the small intestine meridian.
Tapping here helps relieve the feeling of being stuck or frozen.
It helps you to move forward, to let go of the old.
Eyebrow Point:
At the beginning of the eyebrow, just above and to one side of the nose and is abbreviated “EB” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the bladder meridian.
Tapping here helps release traumas, hurt and sadness.
It can bring a sense of inner peace.
Side of the Eye:
On the bone bordering the outside corner of the eye and is abbreviated “SE” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the gall bladder meridian.
Tapping here helps release anger, resentment and fear of change.
It helps with clarity, compassion and understanding.
Under the Eye:
On the bone under an eye about 1 inch below your pupil and is abbreviated “UE” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the stomach meridian
Tapping here helps release fear, anxiety, worry, nervousness and disappointment.
It helps instill calmness and feeling safe.
Under the Nose:
On the small area between the bottom of your nose and the top of your upper lip and is abbreviated “UN” in the tapping script.
This point is the governing meridian
Tapping here helps release shame, guilt, grief, fear of failure.
It may help instill self empowerment and self acceptance.
Chin:
Midway between the point of your chin and the bottom of your lower lip and is abbreviated “CH” in the tapping script.
This point is the central meridian
Tapping here helps release confusion, uncertainty and second guessing decisions.
It may help instill self confidence and clarity.
Collar Bone:
This is the junction where the sternum (breastbone), collarbone and the first rib meet.
To locate it, first place your forefinger on the U-shaped notch at the top of the breastbone (about where a man would knot his tie).
From the bottom of the U, move your forefinger down toward the navel 1 inch and then go to the left (or right) 1 inch.
I make a loose fist with either hand and gently tap this area.
This point is abbreviated “CB” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the kidney meridian.
Tapping here helps release general stress, worry, indecision.
It may ease movement forward.
Under the Arm:
On the side of the body, it is about 4 inches below the armpit and is abbreviated “UA” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the spleen meridian
Tapping here helps release guilt, obsessing, worry hopelessness.
It may instill relaxation, and compassion for self and others.
Top of Head:
Tap in a small circular motion on the top of the head. This point is abbreviated “HD” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the “hundred meeting points” meridian.
Tapping here helps release the inner critic, lack of focus and gerbil wheel thinking.
It may instill insight, spiritual connection, focus and wisdom.
Wrists:
Located below the hand on the underside of your arm. The point where a woman would dab her perfume – tap both wrists together.
This point is abbreviated “WR” in the tapping script.
This point is associated with the heart, pericardium and lungs.
Tapping here helps release sadness, heartache, stress, anxiety and grief.
