Searching For Love
Did you ever wake up one day asking yourself; “How did I get here?”… in an unfulfilled relationship, you’re always giving your all to hold things together, thinking if you keep working on making everyone happy, everything will work out. Sound familiar?
One of the main ingredients to be truly happy within oneself is to know you are loved and love yourself whole-heartedly. When you lack the nurturing love in your childhood that is so crucial for you to grow within a fruitful life, you tend to seek other means to supplement that love. Such as: after you first meet someone, you tend to be overly aggressive, calling or texting all the time and not allowing the space needed for both of you to figure out if you really even like each other; or you have sex too soon, thinking sex will help keep them around which is true at times but for the wrong reasons; or giving way too much to that person and not expecting anything in return, like gifts or cooking for them or whatever, thinking this will make them like you, when in reality it either pushes them away or allows them to use you in such a way that they never give in return. Continuously taking from you and never really opening up because you never took the time to learn about each other, to see if there was a real connection and not just you feeling the need to be in a relationship to feel whole.
Possible personality disorders can arise which creates certain behavior patterns that we may not even recognize we have. Such as compulsive, addictive self destructive behaviors that are symptoms of codependency: gambling, over-spending, eating disorders, self sabotage, sexual or relationship addictions, inability to hold a job, etc. The key is to recognize these behaviors so you can seek help in healing and eliminating them by breaking the viscous cycle you find yourself in so you can move forward.
Like myself, I started journaling and reading back what I was writing periodically and that is where I recognized the patterns within me. You can also pay attention to how you react to certain events, making a mental note so the next time it happens it will trigger that thought and have an “AH HA” moment as I call them. Then at that time you can step back, focus on the situation at hand, feel the emotion that is tied to it and start making note of every thought that comes to mind. In doing so, you have taken the first step toward healing. Depending on how deep it goes, you may need to seek counseling which can provide a listening ear, guidance, healing techniques, etc to assist you in the healing process. I chose to seek the help of a spiritual guidance counselor following EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) which really does help in healing old attachments and programming from our lives and doing affirmations on a daily basis on Self Love, Self Esteem, Self Confidence, etc; I also researched on Self Healing via the internet and found some really good reading material to assist in my healing process.
Once you start working on healing your life, it is important to pay attention to your actions and recognize any old habits that you may try to slip back into. It does take work but after awhile you will find yourself truly letting go of that which is no longer healthy for you, recognizing you are worthy of so much more than you ever thought possible. The important thing about all of this is to truly believe and know in your heart that you LOVE you... you are WORTHY of such love and you ARE LOVE. For example, one technique that I’ve learned from Louise Hay was to look in the mirror every day and say ‘I LOVE YOU’ three times and believe it. Trust me… it will feel weird when you first start doing it because deep down inside you don’t really believe it. With our repetitive nature within us, we can break a habit and create a belief, so why not have the habit of loving ourselves? We can reprogram our thoughts to truly believe it.
There is one thing I really want to stress on if nothing else… One must do this: ‘TRULY LOVE YOURSELF!’ Before you can find true happiness within your life this is a very important step to take. It may seem hard at times but the end results are so worth it. Finding one to share a loving relationship with, all begins with you... looking within and accepting you for who you truly are and KNOW you are LOVED.
If you feel you need guidance and direction to help heal your life, I am open to assisting you in the process. I also provide readings through Angelic Communications using Angel Therapy cards that can assist in the healing process. Feel free to contact me by visiting my Facebook Fan Page: www.facebook.com/IntuitiveAngel