“No, this is definitely not where I need to be. And, I am going to do something right now, fast, to be able to move to a different direction.” I believe emotional issues are really based on low self-esteem. This is another part of how we need to change our conversation. Here is a perfect example. Little kids, especially little girls, like to play dress up.  I think it was Carolyn Myss that had mentioned that she was dealing with a woman that, when she was 4 or 5, was all dressed up and had the high heels and the hats, the dresses and the makeup and everything else, and thought that she was just like Mommy and gorgeous. She walks out and Dad says something like you are a ‘tramp.’ That woman’s soul was crushed for 30 – 40 years from one comment. Some people might think that a small comment would not affect the person. But, people are looking for that approval, looking for that connection. This is especially true if you are in that idolization stage, especially for kids, they are modeling you, watching everything. That is something I think we need to do – change our conversation because we could be responsible for building up somebody’s self -esteem as well as being able to take it down. With that, one phrase could take the person down. I heard another story about a speaker who was loved by his audience, and he got evaluation forms. He got 99 positive responses; he got 1 negative response. Which one carried the most weight on him? The negative one. He focused on one thing, the negative. If you look at 1 out of 99, just think about how you can focus on one comment and tear yourself down. It’s getting back into the conversation and telling ourselves a better story. We cannot overcome an objection that on some level we believe is true. So, we need to look at who we are, the best right now. How do we start developing that certainty? It’s daily confidence building. Give yourself some small wins, and be able to celebrate on the small victories. I am a big component in journaling, writing everything down. It’s a celebration of what you have accomplished during that day. Developing daily habits really anchors everything else in your life. I did a presentation on the ‘Richest Man in Babylon.’ One of the premises is that you pay yourself first. So, I started to take it beyond the financial aspect. I am going to pay myself first with everything I get. So, if every day I get 24 hours, I am taking 10% of that, so I can fill up my bucket. Subsequently, I will start my day in a positive way, so it will give me strength to be able to do the things I need to do as far as building my business, coaching people and being able to have a full bucket. For me, what that entails is I spend 15 minutes with our cats listening to Abraham’s Vortex. It is a way to get into that loving energy, and get a clear direction for the day. I practice my yoga, do at least 30 to 45 minutes, another 20 minutes of meditation, have breakfast and usually watch one of the motivational, inspirational shows I recorded off of Oprah’s network or something inspirational. Consequently, the first appointment of the day is at noon.  This is my structure. This is what I need to do to fill my bucket up. I have found by developing that I have reconnected to my sense of faith, to be able to connect with the Universe, be able to know that there are new opportunities and people that are coming into my life that are a direct result of the meditation, of that connection that I am asking for. Views:]]>