elainefesseyagonyaunt@bellesprit.com. With the aid of my spirit guide I am able to give you answers that are practical, insightful and spiritual. Only a first name and location are required or remain anonymous if preferred. Much love, Agony Aunt. Dear Agony Aunt,   Earlier this year I lost my job and my partner walked out on myself and our three young children. Since then. I have struggled to make ends meet. Now Christmas is around the corner and I am terrified that my children will be disappointed. I want them to have a time to remember. Any ideas?   Anne, Cornwall UK. Dear Anne, Christmas can be a stressful time as it is, let alone being in a vulnerable position. Times are tough for many now and it’s a time to dig deep and see what resources we have developed during our hard times. Spirituality and love are free and can enhance the experience of Christmas. Memories can be made by sharing the tasks, wrapping presents and shopping in thrift stores. It’s the act of giving that makes this such a special time of year and presents can be homemade or baked. Children love to get involved with cooking. Visit elderly neighbors and people who you know will be alone. Make your own decorations and have fun making a mess cutting and gluing at the kitchen table. Family love is priceless and cannot be bought. Enjoy the love you share between you, and you will have a Christmas to remember. Much love, Agony Aunt Dear Agony Aunt, I am desperately lonely. My husband passed away this summer and the pain of losing him is still raw. I feel I have made a lot of progress this year but I don’t want to ruin Christmas for my family by being unhappy. I’m also afraid this will hit me hard at Christmas. I don’t know how to cope.   Jean, UK. Dear Jean, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is always especially hard, but at Christmas everything magnifies. The expectation to have fun and joyfulness is bound to make you feel the opposite. Plan for the holidays and make sure you only have people you are close to and like around you. Anyone who loves you will understand if you are sad. Stay busy but allocate time for yourself to grieve. Lower your expectations and next year will be easier for you. Much love, Agony Aunt ]]>