Each month I am entrusted by our readers to answer their problems in my psychic agony aunt page. Now I am delighted to be able to extend the services of myself and my guide to answer problems that have been sent in to the radio show, Kathie’s Coffee Talk which airs each Monday morning from 11:00 am until 1:00 pm EST on the Hey-Z Radio Network. Each week a panel of experts answer listener’s problems and give advice from their wealth of training and life experience. Each month I will be selecting several of our listener’s problems to answer here.
Question one Dear Agony Aunt, Two years ago I split up with my partner of ten years. Our love blossomed quickly at first but in time it became a nightmare. We fought all the time and would hurt each other terribly using hurtful words and sometimes even physically fighting. All along we were like best friends but as these episodes increased we had no option but to end the relationship. Now I find myself thinking of him all of the time and missing our time together. Why do I feel this way and what should I do? Please help me Agony Aunt I don’t know who else to turn to!!! Lydia, Oregon, USA.
Dear Lydia,
Thank you so much for trusting me with your problem. It feels very much like you are tuning back in with the feelings from the early days of your relationship. The difficulties that arose later were in fact the both of you acting out and trying to understand the life lessons you both came here to learn. How does this scenario compare to other relationships in your life, including those with parents?
By yearning for your ex you are showing yourself that you still have some mileage left in this lesson. There are still some parts of it to learn before you can let go of the past. Try to walk in your partner’s shoes and see why he acted the way he did? Did he feel deeply insecure so that he controlled your every move? Did this spark off anger issues from previously being controlled in your childhood?
By forgiving him and everyone else from your past (including yourself) you can put the pain of the past to rest. New opportunities and healthier relationships can follow. If your ex can also heal his past you have a chance to be together again but once this happens you may no longer be attracted to him for the lesson. Any pain you feel is the disconnection of relational cords between you. This can take several years unless you heal yourself with forgiveness.
Your guides are asking you to take another look at the situation without feeling the pain of disconnection. They offer you their love and strength to assist you on your healing journey.
Much love,
Agony Aunt
Question two
Dear Agony Aunt,
I am twenty eight years old, have a degree in jewelry design and have trained as an art lecturer. My question is how do you see my career prospects? No matter how hard I work at qualifying for a career I can never seem to find a job that pays well and struggle to make ends meet. How do you see my future and what are the obstacles that hold me back from the lifestyle I desire? Thanks for taking the time to listen!
Dorothy May, Cornwall UK.
Dear Dorothy May,
You have worked so hard for your future you have to be commended for your work ethic and common sense. Although you say you are fed up with the slowness of your progress up the career ladder, I see that you have more opportunities around you than you realise.
By singularly focusing on money you are denying yourself a full experience of all that life has to offer. Let go of the focus and instead evaluate all of the things you are rich in. You have a family most would give anything for and people warm to your sunny and generous personality.
You have good health but run down your energy easily by trying to fit too much into your day. There is a big opportunity ahead to open a shop in the area where you live. You will get teaching hours here and there but will mostly work as a self-employed trainer running workshops in many art and craft subjects. Always be flexible and work at weekends if they are available.
You will need to fit in with other people’s leisure time but make it up to yourself on other days of the week.
You spark the imagination of customers by creating imaginative and different art, craft and jewelry pieces. Also interior design concepts that make you unique and sought after. Keep on with your work progress and enjoy life. The time for making a success of your life is close.
Much love,
Agony Aunt
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