elainefesseyagonyaunt@bellesprit.com. Dear Agony Aunt, My brother is married but I recently discovered that he has been having an affair with another man.  He knows that I have found out but he refuses to see a counselor. How can I help him please? Edward, UK. Dear Edward, Your brother has been hiding his true self since childhood. His issues are with letting down your father who he is in awe of. He loves his wife but obviously his preference is with his own sex. It is important he speaks to a counsellor or yourself as he is in pain and feels very unhappy. Best wishes, Agony Aunt. Dear Agony Aunt, I have been with my partner for some time and he is very kind to me and my four year old son.  My problem is he is just not exciting enough. I feel so guilty as I find myself dreaming of going out and meeting someone new. Can you see me staying with my partner or will I meet someone else? Please help me. “R” Cornwall UK. Dear Friend, You are standing at a crossroads in your life. This means you will be offered two different ways forward. The situation you are in now is safe. It always will be safe but this does not fit with your vision of the future. The choices you make are going to be dictated by your son as he grows up. He will have definite ideas that influence your decision. The clear message is to stay in the moment and let situations unfold.  You will definitely be happy with the final outcome. Best wishes, Agony Aunt ]]>