elainefesseyagonyaunt@bellesprit.com. No problem is too big or too small and only a first name and location is necessary or remain anonymous if preferred. A problem shared is a problem halved! Dear Agony Aunt, My husband has been having an affair with someone who I used to call my friend. He swears it is now over but she keeps calling me and telling me they are still seeing one another. I want to believe him but she is really making me have doubts about his honesty. Please help me Agony Aunt. I don’t know what to believe any more. Jane, Cornwall UK. Dear Jane, I can see how your confidence must be knocked by these two and their actions.  My guide would like you to know that, in this instance, your husband is telling you the truth. Your friend has very low self-esteem issues and has always envied you. She made a play for your husband because she felt you had it all. Because you have been concentrating on your career in recent years, he felt neglected and has fallen into a trap. Your friend saw a glitch in your marriage and made a play for him. You are the one he adores but because he felt you disengaging with him he fell victim to his own loneliness. He realized this was a mistake within a few weeks and bitterly regrets his actions. Please give him another chance as he will never look at another woman as long as he lives. If you can bring yourself to do this your so called friend will lose the hold she is enjoying over you and this will force her to face her own issues. Sending love to you and your family. Agony Aunt Dear Agony Aunt, I am married to a man who has a six year old daughter by his previous marriage. I’m trying so hard to bond with her when she visits but she simply ignores me. When I try to give her presents or treats she throws them away and has a tantrum. I’m lost as to how to handle this problem and feel she hates me. What can I do? Joanne, London UK. Dear Joanne, The first thing I feel here is that you are expecting too much too soon from your step-daughter. It is very confusing to her to see her father with a new “mummy.”  Also, her mother is not over the marriage break up and often cries in front of the little girl. This is very confusing for her because she does not possess the adult reasoning and experience to understand the new situation. Be patient and let her have as much alone time as possible with her father. Spend small amounts of time with her until she gets used to the new family set up. In time, she will grow to be your friend, but for now take things very gently. Warm wishes, Agony Aunt. ]]>