I, like many others, am familiar with the law of attraction. I’ve watched the Secret, and listened to hundreds of hours of Abraham Hicks.
I’ve talked about it, meditated about it, and have even put a few of the practices into place. In my book, I could put a check mark next to that subject. That is, until earlier this week when I realized I knew nothing about this law of attraction. You see, I thought the law of attraction was a process, a path to self-fulfillment.
Since my awakening began a couple of years ago, I have been learning to embrace Spirituality and all that comes with it. I have sought out ‘like-minded’ people to talk about this wonderful journey. All along the way, the question of family support is repeated. Not just for me, but also for almost everyone I speak with. When it comes my turn to answer that question, it’s usually “he doesn’t like it” or something similar, referring to my husband.
What occurred to me this weekend is that I produced that belief and just accepted it as truth because it was easier than letting myself be vulnerable to the one person who’s opinion mattered most. In essence, I had given the fear of being judged a seat at my kitchen table. Yet, here I was putting all these positive affirmations about myself into the universe, only to be sending negative affirmations for my husband! To think I had spent many hours pondering why this gap between us was so difficult to bridge. Never had it occurred to me, it was the law of attraction at work.
As this ah-ha moment was sinking in, I began to ask for the best way to fix this. The answer was given to me: appreciation. Appreciation is a component of love, the opposite of fear. To say that you are appreciative is not the same as being. Being appreciative is to live in such a way that people around you, the ones you love and cherish, feel appreciated. When a person feels appreciated, they feel worthy of love; they will then accept that love inward, changing your relationship with them.
The rest of the day was spent in reflection and observation. I thought about the most important people in my life and asked myself “do they know I appreciate them?” I couldn’t honestly answer that question with a ‘yes.’ I knew that needed to change; immediately. When I opened myself to this intention, I began to see so many little and simple ways to make it happen.
When my husband went to get a pair of socks from his dresser drawer, I noticed that if I match his socks, instead of just putting them in his drawer, I can take away one moment of frustration for him. Instead of pointing out the imperfection in the counter top he just installed, I thought first about how he may interpret this as criticism and feel obligated to fix it. That little imperfection isn’t going to make a difference to me one way or the other, but it would make a difference in his day. I made sure to say thank you each time I noticed he did something for me, and I listened when he talked.
These are just a few things I noticed. I spent the weekend paying attention to my husband, how he reacted to the world around him, and ways I could help him feel appreciated. Almost immediately, I could feel the energy in our relationship shift away from fear, to love and appreciation. The law of attraction again proving itself, like attracts like.
We make hundreds of choices everyday. Ask yourself :
“Have the choices I made today created a positive difference to someone else?”
“Do my loved ones feel appreciated?”
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