It seems for many that the stability they once enjoyed is now gone. What once seemed clear is now foggy; the present is chaotic and the future is uncertain.
People ask me, “Where’s my path? I used to know where I was going. Now everything has changed and I don’t know what to do. I can’t see my next steps.” This state of affairs seems to be part of this ascension time right now. Believe it or not, it’s a beautiful thing.
This is the path.
People connect with me and describe what’s going on in their lives:
“I’m living in a temporary shelter and I have to pass by a drug dealer to get out of the building.”
“My daughter is having a difficult time right now and I’m so scared for her. I’m not sleeping and I’m not eating.”
“I’m afraid for my family, the country, our world. What happens if the economy collapses?”
“I’m seeing ghosts and they’re freaking me out.”
“I feel other people’s emotions and it’s overwhelming me.”
“I’ve just lost my husband and now I’m lost. This isn’t what I planned. I don’t know how to go forward.”
“I’m so alone. I thought I’d have love in my life. I’m trying to do everything right. I’m going out; I’m working on myself, but still I have no one to love me.”
“Where do I go? What do I do? I’ve lost my way.”
This is where I get people mad at me by saying, “You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be at this moment in time. It’s perfect. This is the path.”
And that’s when they tell me the story again, emphasizing the bad parts, figuring I missed something. I get it. It stinks. It’s terrible. This is not where you wanted to be right now. There is nothing “good” about where you are.
Except that this is where your soul wants you to be. Your soul wants you to learn something from this situation. It doesn’t care whether you learn the lesson the easy way or the hard way. Look behind you. This is where the path has led. You are on it right now. The important thing is not to avoid this part.
Look at what is here for you right now. Look at what the circumstances are provoking in you right now. What are the emotions? Are you angry, fearful, resentful, shameful, or guilty? Are you struck in dysfunctional core beliefs of not feeling worthy, not good enough, not loveable? That’s where the lessons and the growth are.
Begin to learn that lesson and change yourself and your circumstances will change. Or the ease with which you operate within those circumstances will change. You will no longer suffer through them.
Newtown, CT: Physical Violence
We had a terrible incident occur last month in Newtown, CT. A gunman went into an elementary school and shot and killed twenty children and six adults. I doubt that anyone in the town expected this to occur. No one expected that to be the path. But it now is the path. There will be many experiences and lessons available for them that they never consciously chose. Many will be faced with living in hatred, anger and bitterness or choosing to try to heal and find forgiveness. This does not mean accepting that what the gunman did was okay. It doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or the loved ones lost. It means making the choice to learn how to forgive even in the most terrible of circumstances. For the rest of us, we can choose to live in fear because of this incident or live in faith.
There is no judgment about the choice made by anyone. All choices are yours. But anyone who has chosen forgiveness—or acceptance, love, joy, gratitude, etc.—can tell you there is freedom in the choice of a higher vibrational direction. You are freed from the circumstances and those involved.
You say, “But it’s not a choice…my anger, hurt and sadness are intense. If I could simply choose to make them go away, I would.” The choice comes in making the decision day by day and often moment by moment to head in a different direction. For those in Newtown, they may simply say, “I’m so angry right now that I can’t possibly forgive, but I’m open to that possibility one day. And I’m open to divine grace moving me in that direction.”
The Path of Being Alone
Let’s take the situation that so many face right now. They are alone and want desperately to be with someone to share their lives, yet no one shows up. So what is the path right now? Being alone. For this moment. Be with that. Allow your soul to experience it and find contentment within it. Learn how to be alone, but not lonely. See what there is to learn and explore it. Set your desires and your manifest to be with someone, but then be right here, right now and find the ways to be okay with it. Don’t run from it. And there’s no sense in hating it; that just creates suffering. Enjoy the beautiful aspects of it because there are many if you look for them.
The Path of Pain
For me, the path has been fraught with physical pain. I spent years desperately trying to be pain-free. I did not want to be in those moments, which were the majority of my life. I’d escape being fully present by looking ahead to a time without pain. Once I realized that the pain was my path—at least for then—I actually had the best success at getting out of my pain.
As I sat quietly with the pain, I learned the patterns in my life that were creating it. I learned how to fully experience the pain, to describe it, to go inside it and to ask it what it needed. As I learned what it needed and why it was there, I became successful at getting out of it and learned how to become a better healer. It was the path, but I avoided it for so long which, of course, only prolonged that part of the path.
Moving Forward
What’s before you right now? Be brutally honest with yourself. Look only at yourself for the answers. Don’t look to blame anyone else, though others may have been a part of the path. Don’t blame yourself, though, either. You made the choices you did and you learned beautiful (and sometimes painful) lessons from them.
What are your deepest emotions here on this part of the path? What led you here? Knowing these answers can begin to show you how to change where you are. Be grateful for these circumstances. Without them you may not have learned something valuable. Remember that your soul will put growth above all else. And your soul is looking for you to learn very simple, but important things. On the soul’s path toward self-mastery and enlightenment, the soul will want you to be learning very simple truths like how to:
- Love oneself
- Love others
- Be compassionate
- Be in your own truth
- Be in your power
- Live in faith, without fear
- Live a balanced life
- Heal yourself
- Be in it, not of it
- Forgive
- Be grateful
These ascension times are fast-tracking our move into self-mastery and often that is uncomfortable. That’s the point. We rarely learn in times of ease. Be grateful for where you are and what’s going on. And know that you are on the path.
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