Did you realize the life we live is only an illusion through our own perceptions?
When someone does something which causes you to react in a certain way – it’s through your own perception of the situation that causes you to react positively or negatively. Through our life experiences we have created a database of thoughts within our conscious mind which then when certain events take place, we perceive them to be as we see it, even though it was meant to be received in a different manner.
For example: You see your boyfriend at the market and you start to question, “Why is he not at work? He said he had to work late.” You proceed to move through the crowd, working yourself closer to him and you notice he is standing there with a woman seeming to be having a pleasant conversation. You start to feel a little hurt and angry, wondering what they are doing. Your heart starts to race just a bit in fear he is with another woman. As you get closer, you notice he has flowers in his hand; you begin to get even more upset with the feeling he is with this woman and he is buying her flowers. “What?” You question, “He doesn’t even give me flowers anymore, what the hell!” So you proceed further with anger and jealousy in your heart. As you approach him you say; “What do you think you’re doing, aren’t you suppose to be at work?” As he looks at you confused at the expression of anger on your face and says; “Oh Hi honey… what are you doing here? I was going to surprise you with these but you caught me… ha-ha.” As he hands you the flowers, he leans in… kisses you and says; “Sorry I’ve been working so much. I told you I was working late so I could surprise you with these and some dinner but since you are here, how about getting a bite to eat”. In shock to his response, you look at the woman… you notice she is wearing an apron. At that point you come to realize she is just the vendor selling flowers. Due to bad experiences in the past with men, you quickly triggered a negative scenario to this perception. Now feeling very foolish… you give him a big hug and thank him.
I have found myself in similar situations where I feel like a fool for assuming the worst of a situation when in actuality it was just how I was perceiving it, creating an illusion the person was being hurtful, dishonest, deceiving, or whatever.
This can go the other way as well. People tend to put a cloak over our eyes at times and we only see how they want us to perceive them to be when in actuality they have created an illusion of love, trust, honesty, etc.
Perception is a very tricky thing – One action seen by many – has many different solutions; it’s just a matter of ‘how’ you look at it. The more open-minded you are about the situation, the more you will be open to seeing the illusions you are creating in your life. Some perceptions may be correct and some not but stepping back and rethinking your thoughts before reacting or allowing your emotions to get away from you – keeping a calm clear head – will allow you to see through the illusion for what it really is… thus the true reality.
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