Our Bellesprit Diamond Psychics and Healers answer your questions each month. Send Us Your Question. Our Diamond Wisdom column is for YOU to submit one question to be answered here FREE each month by one or more of our talented psychics and healers. From Sarah: I’ve been seeing an incredible man for 2 months now and it’s been great. I’ve fallen in love with him and he has for me, but he says what’s stopping us is he’s still in love with his ex-girlfriend. So what I am asking is will he choose me over her? What will come of us? Kimberley Simon: You’re getting ahead of yourself. There is no guarantee with any relationship. You’re still in the chemical soup mix of new romantic love. If you want a guarantee and push him to commit too soon, it could backfire. Can you be with this as it is right now and enjoy it for what it is, right now, or are you leaning/pushing/waiting/on hold for more? He has told you that he can’t move forward; that he is still tied emotionally to his ex. This is his reason/excuse to hold back from you. Accept what is at deep levels with no attachment to the result/outcome or you could push him away. Respect what he told you and respect yourself in this relationship. You are trying to push the next stage of commitment far too soon with this man. Explore what it is you’re trying to get through this relationship and give that to yourself. Fill yourself up in other ways and do not rely on him to make you feel loved. Live your life, accept him and this time for what it is. Receive the gifts of this experience and intend to be with the man who can give you all that you deserve, no holding back, as you fill yourself up to feed who you really are, on all levels, independently of another person. He won’t give you his whole heart at this time. He is holding back. That is what is right now. You can accept it and enjoy this, or you can resist, label or judge it and feel negatively, which will chew you up. You have a choice that only you can make. The foundation you build now (internally) will set the stage for your future, with or without him. You have an opportunity to learn to ‘romance’ yourself daily to enhance your life and relationships with others. What is he reflecting to you? Where do you hold back from loving yourself? Where do you hold back from receiving? Take advantage of this opportunity to really know yourself more deeply to receive the gift of a partner that truly can love and honor you fully. Joy to you. Pamela Cummins: I am hearing an old song lyric, “Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool.” I am also hearing, “My baby’s daddy, who has another child by a different mama.” I am also seeing the foot from a Grateful Dead album, but it is different because it is in the doorway instead of the rainbow. What all that means is he is comfortable right where he is, spreading his seed, and keeping you hanging on. I heard, “Get to know him” and I am seeing a man putting a mask over his face. You really do not know him and are in what I call – La La Land. Enjoy it because it doesn’t last that long. Luci Leibfried: Sarah, love is a wonderful and powerful emotion. We get struck by the thunderbolt and sometimes we cannot stop what we are feeling. This is a situation where I am feeling you should put the brakes on and listen to what is being said. He claims he is still in love with his ex. While your heart is open and ready, he is looking for something he cannot commit to…which is a new relationship. In order to be fair to you both, he must make a choice. If he chooses to keep the love of his ex on the burner, you have to let him find what he really wants, either you or her. Protect your heart dear one, be grateful that he has crossed your path, but let him find out what he really wants. You deserve his full commitment, not to share him with a memory. Before he can love you in the way you deserve, he has to let go of the past, and it sounds like he is not. Blessings and light to you. Janét Bowerman: Hello Sarah and thanks for writing. I’m feeling like this relationship is still in the ‘honeymoon’ phase and it is difficult at this time for you to really see the situation for what it is. Take time to get to know one another. I do not feel this man is emotionally available for you. If he is still in love with his ex, how can he be fully there for you? I’m being guided to say, don’t compromise and settle for less than. You deserve someone to be fully engaged emotionally and with that, there would never have to be a choice made between you and another. These are lessons to value and love you unconditionally, and when you do – this will open the door for someone to come into your life who will do the same. Blessings. Elaine Fessey: Hello Sarah. Your new relationship sounds exciting and heady. So much so, that you are willing to see your future together even though he may not be ready himself. I feel you should nurture the friendship you have begun between you. Don’t allow yourself to listen to him talk about his love for his ex. Are you filling an empty space from a previous hurt? I feel you and this man will help each other immensely. When you are both stronger, you will be more confident to make decisions about the future. Enjoy this time and don’t over think it. All is progressing. Cris Avery Cole: Hi Sarah, Spirit is telling me to tell you not to get caught up in if he will choose you over her, because there is someone better coming along for you by March. So get yourself ready! Namaste.   From Melinda:Do you think I should stay at my job or is it just a waste of time? Do you see any advancement or pay raise in my near future? Janét Bowerman: Hello Melinda and thank you for writing. I’m getting that sub-consciously you feel your job is a waste of time because you’re not happy with what you do. I feel as if there is a lack-luster approach to your tasks as you feel it is not challenging or interesting enough. Perhaps it is time to go within and really look at what is your calling and look for a job that is more suitable to your interests. Having said that, I do feel there is an opportunity coming after the first of the year for advancement, with better pay, into a different area of work, but this will require a more enthusiastic approach and attitude from you. Often times, we are stuck in a job that we have outgrown and are hesitant to make changes. Follow your bliss and seek a job that makes your life fun and exciting. Many Blessings! Danelle Devi: Hi Melinda. I see a change coming for you in March. This is positive, although at the time, it may not seem so. It will open the doors for what you are ready for career-wise. Blessings!   Pamela Cummins: I am hearing the song, “Oh, won’t you stay just a little bit longer.” I also got a vision of butter being spread on bread. So for today, it is your bread and butter. But I also am seeing the word RESUME in dark purple on a black background. That means the Angels will help you come out of the darkness to the job that is better for you. You have to do the footwork. Elaine Fessey: Hello Melinda, you may feel you are treading water at this job but the skills you are learning are not obvious ones. Patience will pay off when something new presents itself in the New Year. This may be a sideways step but begins a fresh climb up the ladder for you. Good luck! From Anonymous: I have a lot of changes going on in my life right now. Which path I should take? Janét Bowerman: Thank you for writing. Often times, when we are slammed with change, it is unsettling as it takes us out of our comfort zone. Change can be good though and opens up new pathways for growth. While I cannot say which path you should take, as only you truly know your situation, I am being guided to say, you already know the answer. Take one step at a time so as not to become overwhelmed with the possibilities. I am feeling there is an opportunity for you to change careers and possibly relocate (I see you having a couple of choices). Take your time and examine all the sides to it and choose one that will further enrich your life and be fun. I’m also feeling that once you choose a direction and go with it, the answers to the other questions will fall into place…these choices will become very clear. I also see a huge door opening up for you with lots of sunshine on the other side – which means for me, these changes will bring you new-found energy, zest for life and much deserved happiness. Many Blessings on your new journey! Pamela Cummins: LOL! My guides are saying the one before you! I am hearing the song lyric, “Follow the yellow brick road.” That means to take the road of the unknown and allow your intuition to guide you in the moment. I got the song lyric, “You are not alone.” So, know that your Angels and loved ones on the other side are with you, along with the physical people who are meant to be. Elaine Fessey: Dear friend, it’s not a case of taking a new path but more of strengthening the one you have been on. It feels like unfinished business with more mileage on the clock. You may be trying to avoid facing some difficult issues. Be assured you will sail through any difficulties with ease. Stay strong and the changes you wait for will manifest. From Anonymous: My nephew, Johnny, is facing serious charges, will he be acquitted and released? Kimberly Wilson Ward: I see him drop his head in defeat, but feel it will not be ‘as harsh’ as it could be. I feel a lot of remorse around him.     Pamela Cummins: I heard ‘no’ right away. Now my guides played, “Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time, don’t do it,” from the theme song of the old show, Beretta. I will keep him in my prayers.   Donna Putrino Cantone: I am hearing several things from my angels. I sense he will be charged, but not as seriously as first thought. The situation he is in may be related to a past life issue. He needs to learn from this mistake and heal from past experiences. They also tell me he may be very sensitive to chemicals. If drugs were involved, he needs to ‘get clean.’ Johnny is in my prayers. Elaine Fessey: I’m afraid the resounding answer I get is ‘no.’ Johnny will now learn from people around him whose back stories are terrible. He will develop compassion and empathy. He may also find strength in religion. My prayers go out to all concerned.   Receive guidance from many different perspectives and connect with one of our Diamonds who best resonates with you. Send your questions to belle@bellesprit.com. 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