The title of this month’s article is a quote by Suzanne Somers and is something I’ve been working on extensively for the last few months. We’ve all been victimized in some way or another over the years. We’ve been mistreated, ridiculed, bullied, emotionally, physically or verbally abused. We’ve lost loved ones who we cared deeply about; some especially that we thought were taken before their time. We’ve taken this on through no fault of our own, and it’s time to let it go.
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder
Holding resentment toward another also includes judging them. You may feel hurt, contempt, anger, spite, but all of these emotions hold us back from leading a normal, fulfilled life. The people and situations that have caused you to feel this way may also cause dis-ease with your human body and cause you to have physical pain and discomfort that you are not able to release. You judge these people for their wrong doing and subsequently have taken on the pain, literally, into your own life.
I’ve dealt with so many things, situations, and people in my own life that it has caused shoulder pain, for instance, dealing with the shoulds and should nots. I should have fought back, I should have said this, I shouldn’t have done or said that, etc. I’ve also had to deal with a broken heart. Losing someone close to you can cause you great angst and create holes in your spiritual heart. This kind of loss requires healing so that you can move on. All of this does.
There are several ways you can do this. The easiest, of which, is through breath work and releasing. It’s important to release the person, the situation, the pain, anger, and frustration that you have harbored deep within and let it go. “Upon forgiving and releasing the trauma from your mind and body, you are freeing your energy to run free which, in turn, allows your body to do its job and heal.” (Kelly Said)
Start by sitting quietly. Take in a few deep breaths, hold, and breath out each time slowly. Then you can simply state aloud, “This is not mine. This is someone else’s and I let it go.” Take in a slow deep breath and blow it all out like you were blowing out candles on a birthday cake. You may have to repeat it more than once until you can actually feel lighter and freer. You may have to be stern in your words as well. I’ve had great success with this simple exercise.
You can also start a releasing list. Write down those things and people that have caused you hurt and the reasons why. Pay attention to your negative thoughts and negative talk that you are having within yourself and ask yourself why you are thinking or feeling this way. By doing this exercise, old hurts may surface that you had buried and forgotten about, but they are holding you back from your spiritual growth. As you go through this exercise it actually may feel like you are peeling away at an onion. Layer by layer you will find your way to your end goal of emotional freedom.
Sometimes it’s important to forgive yourself. Maybe you’ve been too hard on your children. Maybe you’ve been unfair to your spouse and taken them for granted. Maybe when you were growing up YOU were the bully and you are now realizing with the epidemic that bullying has become, you’re upset with the way you behaved towards others. Maybe you’ve been fired from a job. More often than not it’s because of your own doing. I realize it’s hard at that moment to see it being your kid’s fault, or your spouse’s fault, or your boss’s fault, but look deep and FORGIVE YOURSELF!!!!
If there’s anytime to start this, IT”S NOW, but one of the best times you can do this is on the night of a full moon. Make sure to ground and protect yourself prior to this exercise. (See my article in the June 2012 Issue of Bellesprit called Grounding & Protecting Through the Shift.) As you sit under the full moon, you can verbalize those things that you want to release. For instance, “I release _______ from the verbal abuse that he/she gave me.” “I release ________ from dying on me.” “I release myself and my need to be in control.” “I release myself from losing my temper.” “I release myself from being a bully.”
If you’ve written down your release list, do as above and speak it out loud so the Universe can hear you. Actually resolve deep in your heart that you are letting go of everything on that list, then BURN IT!! It will be amazing at how much better you’ll feel. You’ll feel burdens lifted right off your shoulders. You will feel that tightness you carry in your heart actually release. You will feel lighter and more at peace with yourself. You will actually see the difference in your eyes when you look in the mirror again.
When it’s all said and done, say “thank you”. Thank the person, the situation, the issue. Thank them for the lessons and LET IT GO!!! Thank the Universe, the Moon, Mother Earth for their assistance in your exercise on forgiveness, releasing and letting go. Please realize that throughout our life, it may be important to do this exercise again. We are human after all. We are not perfect and sometimes we forget how important it is to live a life “in spirit”. We are all created equal with the light, love, and peace from our Source. Forgiveness truly is a gift we can give ourselves. It’s our Divine right to live in peace and harmony where we can love others as our Source loves us.
Here is a testimonial from R.P., Watertown, NY and how this process helped her:
I’m very thankful and grateful that Lisa urged me to release and forgive! I had been harboring grudges that were quite frankly just bogging me down emotionally and spiritually. I did this at the full moon in June, and since then have felt lighter and have a bigger bounce in my step! I released all the negativity…forgave those who have done me, my family and other loved ones wrong in the past. Just because you release and forgive doesn’t mean you have to forget. It’s simply that you no longer dwell on those issues. Even though you consciously may not think about them…your subconscious can bring these moments, events back to you when you least expect it. It took me a few times saying out loud…”I forgive you.” “I release all the negativity back to the universe!” I stood barefoot in the grass while doing this…and I’ve gotta tell you…I knew it worked as I swayed just a bit and literally felt all those grudges and negative thoughts and feelings flow out of me.
Since I have done this I have slept better, and my always positive attitude has only intensified. If I believe it, it will happen! I know certain things in life you have to work hard and strive for…but it sure is a lot easier when you are free of the burdens and trials of your past! I can truly say my future is looking bright and I embrace each day as the gift it really is!!
Forgive those who insult you, attack you, belittle you or take you for granted. But more than this….forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. ~ Unknown
Find out more about my sources for this article below:
Kelly Said:
http://thespiritsaid.blogspot.com/
So until next time, all my light and love. If you have questions, please don’t hesitate to send me a message on Facebook or drop me an email.
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