Part One ~ HSP Math
Instantly most of you reading this already know what we are talking about simply from the title. You know how it feels to be in line at the grocery store and to have some annoying person behind you talk in a loud or high pitched angry manner. It feels as though someone is grating on your nerves so badly you want to turn and slap them, duct tape their mouth or shut them up somehow, anyway you can! It doesn’t have to even be talking. It can be tapping of fingers, odd breathing or just their hurry-up energy that generates these feelings inside you. You look around and no one else seems to notice. It doesn’t seem to bother anyone else in the least! And then that thought becomes as bothersome as the annoying person. “Why me? Why am I the only one who finds this irritating? You look around. No one else seems to notice. “What is wrong with me?”
The simple answer is nothing. There is nothing wrong with you. You are simply one of the ones that has this heightened sense of perception. The problem is not with you. The problem is taking this highly gifted, highly sensitive intuitive self out into society, a society that is in a time of great turmoil and strife, a society filled with annoyances like loud noises, harsh lights, chemically induced food and annoying people. It is a world that exists with or without you experiencing it. Storms come. Traffic snarls. Technology pings. Go-go-go is the name of the game. The stimulations are many and increasing by the day. With technology, sugar, traffic, media and societal pressures to ‘succeed’ to do more, be more, the stimulation is overwhelming. It is reaching its breaking point.
You are not the only one feeling it. There are many, many others. Some are acting out. They are shooting people. They are threatening violence. They are choosing to leave themselves. They are standing up and saying “I can’t take it anymore!!!” These are paths some choose because they believe they do not have any other choices. Aggression is always an option for the highly sensitive ones. It is always a possible.
Because what is happening to you when all these stimulations come your way, you are taking them in, no? Yes! You are taking them all in! You are like sponges. You absorb. You absorb all the feelings and pain and trauma and noises and smells and visuals. You take it all in. You are absorbing every moment, every noise, every look, every sight, sound, touch and feel. You are absorbing them all. They build and build within you, more and more and more until they reach a breaking point. Then what? Then you are filled to the top! You are filled up, fed up and ready to blow! So then what happens? Well all that stimulation has to go somewhere, doesn’t it?
That is when you explode. That is when ‘meltdowns’ occur.
Tantrums from kids, slamming doors from teens, tears and reckless behavior from mothers, punching walls and people from others, all are symptoms of being overdone. It simply reaches the ‘breaking point’ and you explode. How to stop this, you ask?
Well, you know how people are always talking about letting things go? This is what it is all about. It is time to find ways that fit into your lifestyle to help let it all go. Run, walk, beach, ski, surf, bike, ride, or be outside doing anything, helps to let it go. Feeling your feet pound the pavement rhythmically lets it go. Breathing fresh air lets it go. Roots into the ground let it go. Quiet time alone lets it go. Writing, daydreaming, creative outlets, art, music, melodies, dancing, yoga, or your body in motion lets it go. Laughter, comedies, movies, books lets it go. Friends, family, good talks over good meals lets it go.
Look at every day as a math solution. What stimulation comes in? What goes out? Look at your food, screen time, time in society running errands, school work, kid’s activities and interactions with people. What ones are stimuli? Stimuli equal minuses. They drain you. What activities are fulfilling? Fulfilling times are positive. They fill you up. They help you let go of the stimuli. To have a balanced life the plusses must outweigh the withdrawals. It’s as simple as that.
Now changing your life is not that simple. So do this slowly and do one thing at a time. Start noticing what works for you. Find something you love to do. Sports, golf, tennis, karate, track, field, football and soccer all can help to let it go. Swim, sit by water, and drink lots of water. All this can help let it go. Write, read, meditate or breathe. Let it all go and let the wellness in.
Find what works for you and do it daily! The more stimulation, the more you need the relaxation and time to let it go. The more you take in, the more it all needs to get out. It is the only way for Sensitive’s to survive.
But life is not just about surviving! So in the next month’s articles we will teach you how to thrive. For now, learn what works for you. Learn what helps you let it all out and do it. Busy in? Get busy getting it out! It’s as simple as that.
Ta-Ta for now. All our love ~W~
