Discover the Hidden Messages From Your Emotions Our bodies really are amazing machines, they work tirelessly for us, they are able to cope with an immense amount of stress and toxins we throw at them, they repair while we sleep and they allow us to experience our life through our senses. Our bodies are always trying to create a state of balance within and create our true natural state of well-being and joy. It does this by letting us know through our feelings and bringing anything that is not well-being and joy to our attention for our release. Our bodies also hold the keys to bring us back to peace in any moment because when it comes to feelings, they never lie. When you think of anything, a person or any situation in your life, your body will instantly tell you what you are truly feeling about it. Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between real or imagined, so just by thinking of a person or situation, your body will let you know immediately what your true feelings are about it. By noticing whether you are feeling contractive, tense or heavier or if you are feeling more relaxed, expansive or lighter your body is letting you know whether this person or situation is good for you at this moment or if it has anything that you need to release or work on. Sometimes these tension feelings can be telling you that this person or situation is not the best for you right now, or more often it is letting you know that there is some aspect about this person or situation that is triggering things within you that need to be acknowledged, addressed, resolved and released. How many times have you met someone who really annoys you? Or makes you feel inferior around them? Or situations that really frustrate you? Have you ever known anyone who says they are happy when they are obviously not or who says they are relaxed when they are very tense? Honouring your true feelings means acknowledging them by paying them the respect they deserve, giving them your attention and saying “Okay, I’m listening, what message are you trying to give me?” Once you acknowledge and address your own feelings about what it is triggering for you, then tension will start to release as you have received the message your body was trying to give you. Try it now, think of any person or situation in your life, close your eyes and listen to your body, what is it saying? Does it feel tense, tight or holding anywhere? Or do you feel relaxed and at ease? THESE MESSAGES ARE ALWAYS ABOUT YOUR OWN FEELINGS Quite often people try to resist their own feelings and body’s wisdom by trying to convince themselves that are not feeling what they are feeling. But our bodies never lie, they are always trying to tell us our own inner truth through our feelings. An example might be someone who is deeply unhappy in a relationship, but keeps saying things like “well, he does take me out once a month.” Even though they are feeling deeply unhappy, they don’t want to acknowledge or admit those feelings to themselves. Perhaps they feel that those feelings would be too painful to acknowledge, or if they acknowledge them they wouldn’t be able to deal with them or if they did acknowledge them it might mean they would have to split up and then what about the kids and their financial security. Perhaps they feel pressured by what everyone would say or feel guilty for having their feelings because they feel they should be happy or appear externally to have no reason to feel upset, and more and more until even the thought of acknowledging their own feelings has become such a huge weight in their mind that they can’t allow themselves to feel them. In their mind it is better to control their body’s inner messages by convincing themselves that’s its all ok really, that they shouldn’t be feeling those feelings, they should look at what they have. I have known some people that have stayed in marriages for sometimes more than 15 years, crying every day, until they acknowledged their feelings and I’ve worked with many, many clients who have told me how happy they are with their life, but crying while they have been telling me this. This is why I would like to offer this message: THESE MESSAGES KEEPS GETTING LOUDER UNTIL YOU LISTEN WHAT YOU RESIST PERSISTS ONCE YOU ACKNOWLEDGE AND ADDRESS YOUR TRUE FEELINGS YOU WILL START TO RELEASE THAT TENSION Sometimes the things that are being triggered or coming up for you about a certain situation or person are not even about that particular situation or person, but are from another previous time, either from your past or sometimes from past lives. When they are from past lives, it can make no sense to you why you feel this way about the situation or person at a logical mind level. Your body stores at a cellular level anything unacknowledged or unresolved. It is like a vibrational energy magnet that then attracts similar people and situations into your life so that the original feelings can be acknowledged and released. Once acknowledged and released you might find yourself feeling very different about the person or situation or once you have learned what you needed to learn from it, then these people and situations may disappear from your life allowing new experiences to take their place. You will literally be resonating at a different energy frequency when you are no longer carrying these old feelings. The good news is that when we work with our body and our truth we don’t have to verbalize or go into the whole story, we can work directly with the energy we are holding in our bodies about a certain situation by using a range of energy psychology techniques. Sometimes, acknowledging your feelings will mean needing to look more deeply into an aspect of your life or take action in your life, but equally sometimes just by sitting quietly, breathing deeply, acknowledging your feelings and allowing them to be is enough to release them.
Techniques for Honouring your Feelings
There are many techniques for honouring and releasing your feelings. The basic rule is negative out allows positive in. So any technique that allows you to acknowledge your feelings allows them to be released, maybe not all at once, but it will start to take the pressure off. Never judge your feelings. You feel what you feel there is no point in thinking that you shouldn’t feel a certain way, you feel what you feel and that is your truth in that moment. You may wish you felt differently, but this does not change how you feel. There are no wrong feelings, they are always just trying to give you a message. An example might be, you get angry that you never have any time for you, but the message may be that you need to have stronger boundaries for yourself and learn to say no to others. Once you acknowledge this, you are in a position of power to change this and the anger will disappear because you have understood the message. The next time you experience this same feeling, it will serve as a reminder about your boundaries and to make time for you too. Feel your emotion fully. Let yourself feel the emotions without trying to control them. If you feel like crying, cry and don’t hold back. If you feel like shouting or screaming, do it. You can shout into a pillow if you want to be quiet. When you acknowledge the feeling fully, you start to release it. Allow the positive learning and any realizations to flow in naturally. After you have started to release your emotions the messages will start to flow in naturally. It is quite common after starting to acknowledge and release your emotions that many realizations and clarity will hit you. Allow the positive learning to flow into your mind naturally over the next few hours and days. Some techniques for honouring and releasing your emotions- EFT. Emotional freedom technique works on the premise that all negative emotions are an irregularity in the body’s energy field and by gently tapping on specific meridian points, while focusing on the negative feeling, they are acknowledged and released. This is a very easy and effective technique that anyone can learn and use on themselves, or for very deep work you can work with a professional practitioner.
- Letter writing. Writing down how you feel can be a very effective way of getting your feelings out and a lot of times when you write them down, you also get a clearer perspective instead of them rolling around inside you. Write until there is nothing left to say inside of you, then write some more. After you feel it’s all out, rip it up and throw away the paper.
- Change the shape, colour and texture of the feeling. Think of the person or situation that is bothering you, tune into your body and notice where you feel tension in your body. Give it a shape, size, colour and texture. There is no right or wrong, the first thing that comes to mind is fine. Now imagine a peaceful colour that will dissolve that feeling. Imagine that colour flowing down through your body, as it flows down from your head and out through your feet. Imagine it dissolving the negative feeling and filling you with peace, safety and light. After a few minutes think of the same situation or person and tune into your body again, see what’s changed. Is the shape the same? Colour? Texture? Is the emotion less than before?
- Breathe into your feeling. Think of the person or situation that is bothering you, tune into your body and notice where you feel tension in your body. Then imagine breathing peace and light into that area, with every in breath, breathe in light and peace and safety and with every out breath, breath out tension, tightness and stress. You can say this to yourself as you do this to make it even stronger.
