Are you waiting for that one true love? Read on as Pamela Cummins gives you the tools in how to find them.

Dear Pamela:

When am I going to meet someone?
From,

Singles Around the Globe

Dear Readers:

I hear this question all the time from my clients, submissions to this column, and callers on my radio show The Love Channel Show. We humans are designed to have the instinct to find that special someone!  My guides added, “It’s in your DNA, your genes.” Of course, there are people who have been so badly wounded that deny their desire for love out of fear of being hurt again. The exception to this rule are humans who are badly damaged, such as psychopaths.

I’m getting a vision of me in my early thirties complaining to a former spiritual adviser about when I was going to meet someone. My spiritual adviser replied, “You could go to a bar and meet someone tonight.” My response was, “No, I’ll wait.”

Let’s face it, all a woman has to do is go up to a few men in a bar and say, “I bet my ankles would look pretty wrapped around your neck.” Some man is going to take that invitation and there’s a chance they could get involved in a roller coaster relationship. What most singles are looking for in a mate is a relationship where they can safely be themselves, have some things in common, and grow together towards a life partnership.

I understand how frustrating it is when a psychic or someone tells you that if you were ready, your mate would be here. You need to heal more and work on yourself. I’m getting a vision of me sitting on my bed and listening to Marianne Williamson. She said something along these lines – you don’t have to do anything to attract your mate, by being love, you will naturally manifest them into your life. I agree with what she said because my mate had arrived; however, I had to work through my issues and become my true self before I could be that magnifying love energy.

The following are some tools to help you manifest your partner:

• Be who you are, a child of God’s love and light. To get to that place we must work through our wounds. Whether that is childhood issues, past relationships, or addictions.
• You need to enjoy being single and enjoy your life. That’s right! I said to embrace and accept your singleness. I understand what it is to ache for your soul mate so much your heart hurts. When you don’t accept your singleness and try to force someone into your life, disaster happens. Why? The type of people you attract will sense your dissatisfaction, unresolved issues, and neediness. These so-called potential mates will teach you the lessons you need to help you achieve self-love and wholeness within. Believe me, these lessons are not fun! I’ve been there, done that, and won’t do it again!
• Please don’t ignore the red flags or rush into the relationship. If something feels off about the person, that is your inner ding warning you. Take your time, do old-fashioned courtship, and keep your clothes on in order to discover who this person is and if this person is truly right for you. When the right one comes along, they are willing to wait for you too.
• My guides often tell singles to “get your booty out there.” God rarely delivers your mate to your doorstep. Go to events, parties, classes, groups, and other things you enjoy. I can’t tell you how many times I heard my clients groan when my guides tell them to join a dating site. Sometimes putting the energy on a dating site will bring in your soulmate elsewhere. I understand there are real weirdos out there; however, there are some winners too. This is how I met my mate. Where I lived there weren’t many men to choose from, so I went on OK Cupid. At the time, he lived in another county and I know for a fact we would have never met in a public place. On the off chance that we did, he would have been too shy to approach me. Two of my friends (from a busy area in New Jersey) also met their soul mates through dating sites.
• Lastly, give time – time. Sometimes you are ready, but the one isn’t for whatever circumstances. Trust in divine timing because love will find a way!

Please send your love and relationship questions to pamelabellesprit@gmail.com Pamela Cummins aka “The Musical Psychic” is also a radio show host and coach. She is the author of Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships, Insights for Singles: Steps for Everlasting Love, and the FREE eBook Pamela’s Love Collection. To learn more, please visit www.pamelacummins.com