Passing Fear Stones – How to Identify and Dissolve Them What Is Fear? Throughout life’s journey, experiencing fear is part of our emotional framework. Dangerous conditions, primarily life-threatening circumstances, stimulate a natural response to fear (or being afraid) of what potentially happens as the end result. When under severe attack, fear releases adrenaline and endorphins that trigger defense reactions as protective safety shields against perilous situations. In this article, I’m demonstrating how attachments to fear create panic, anxiety, stress and low self-esteem, therefore causing paralysis in accomplishing goals, relationships, divine awakening, healthy perceptions and so forth. Within our conscious or subconscious, probable reasons cause “fear stones” to psychically appear as blockages. Let’s examine what is necessary for passing these stones so our minds and hearts are clear for safe passages toward renewal. I came up with the term “fear stones” because fear (in itself) grows solidly in the same way as kidney stones or gallstones — rather painful buildups requiring immediate disposal from the body. Fear stones accumulate and painfully enlarge through life conditions starting from early childhood through maturing into adulthood. The desire to relieve ourselves of such discomfort, such as passing a kidney stone, is something we may or may not admit is necessary depending on comfort zones (or maintaining status quo). If we resist a life filled with countless opportunities, within both physical and spiritual realities, our existence becomes fear based and limited rather than having faith and self-assurance.  In other words, hindering personal growth and spiritual development (transcending to a higher state of grace) is counterproductive and extremely toxic. By ridding ourselves of fear stones, we tend to think more intuitively, seeing things for what they are and not what we perceive they should be. Realizing truth, as part of releasing fear stones, is painful because Divine Intellect flows through our thoughts; in so doing, we eventually witness uncomfortable features about ourselves and possibly others but necessary to overcome and heal. What causes fear stones? Fear, self-inflicted or otherwise, is a consequential emotion since infancy or very early childhood. For instance, at the age of two or three, a scolding parent upsets your happy playtime by punishing you for ‘misbehaving.’ Upset, and apparently disappointed by the incident, you immediately latched onto fear as a defense mechanism. The behavior becomes habitual, thereby creating distrust in yourself and others as you age. Cynicism, pessimism, self-doubt and other uneasy feelings attracted from peers and elders (and from within our own beliefs) fuse into fear stones, small in size at the beginning, yet steadily growing over time. How to identify fear stones? Examine how your life materialized from as far back as memory serves. We may have been around difficult adults — parents, relatives or teachers — who involuntarily (or willingly) stimulated pain within us. It didn’t necessarily translate into us fearing them but developing an assumption of being unworthy or powerless to live beyond expectations. With this theory aside, another startling revelation is we, as human beings, are responsible for either constructing or demolishing fear stones. Minimizing fear stones is a process built on diligence and strength to break through years of vicious cycles, negative behaviors and victimized tendencies. You would have to trust your natural abilities, including the willingness to triumph over fear, for securing a path of wholeness and completion. By living in a constant state of fear, or not passing fear stones, your life’s view could be fragmented and dissatisfying. Oftentimes, inner harmony and self love fail to exist because you might hold onto false illusions of not being good enough [or too afraid] to surpass limitations. Passing fear stones is the first step towards having freedom, embracing prosperity and broadening how you see things in the physical world. The old, stale programming and conditioning will begin to peel away, similarly to a snake shedding its skin, and the results far exceed your wildest dreams. What is the comfort zone? The comfort zone is a term used quite often when we’re stuck in repetitive patterns out of familiarity.  Change, whether subtle or dramatic, shakes the foundation of our comfort zones.  Is my comfort zone the real reason why I haven’t yet sought to be a full-time psychic?  Am I doomed continuing to have monotonous office jobs for the rest of my working life?  How do I go beyond my comfort zone?  I often tell clients that reaching for dreams outside the box requires some form of risk and a deeply rooted faith.  And I’ve taken many risks and my faith is in tact.  I’m certain the comfort zone gradually diminishes while the Universe continues preparing my goals.  I’m not giving up!  Stepping stones lead to milestones.  What is your comfort zone?  Are you content with the way things are or are you ready to go beyond the limits?  Nowadays, I see comfort zones the size of pillboxes rather than shoe boxes. How does fear influence relationships? The first area to explore as far as eliminating fear stones is relationships. Intimate or platonic relationships are initially grounded in trust and equality. Of course, we find ourselves in great relationships with friends, family, co-workers, as well as like-minded individuals who share our ideas and values. When having clear synchronicity with another, relationships take on spiritual vibrations exchanged between the two. You and the other person are on the same level of communication, same level of thought, and same level of intimacy. On the other hand, if finding ourselves constantly embattled within social circles, disengagement rather than enchantment lead to damaging patterns of codependency and unresolved turmoil in the relationships. When involved in a disengaging relationship, egos clash, personalities wrestle and power struggles ensue, forming disharmonious and tiresome conflicts. Are you disengaged from someone close in your life? If so, overcoming this challenge is possible, but you must look into origins and attitudes about the relationship itself. Does the other person ignite passion deep within?  Are you easily able to overpower anger and frustration? Are you not in love with the other person anymore? Were you ever in love to begin with? By asking yourself these questions about a disengaged relationship, you need to take proper action so bitterness does not emerge to the surface. You can try therapeutic counseling to start over from scratch, rekindle loving feelings of affection, and establish agreements to make things work. If counseling fails to succeed, you may attempt meditating together, taking long walks, communicating more openly and deeply (without provoking anger) or planning trips to romantic destinations. In worst case scenarios, should long-term results give way to neglecting reaffirmations of solid commitment, then it might be wise to amicably part ways — without carrying grudges or hatred — and begin life anew either with someone more compatible or discovering your true self by flying solo. I neither emphasize nor advocate divorce and breakups. If workable solutions exist, choose that route whenever necessary. Remain present to the situation and see what happens. However, if a relationship lacks passion, profound love, or at least sensual desire, you have become disengaged. Trying to find your way back into the other person’s heart could be more cumbersome than it’s worth. Be responsible by doing the right thing. If separation is the only choice from your options (everything you tried time and time again), prepare to do so with love, respect and dignity, especially if it involves family. However, and most importantly, if your relationship makes both parties’ hearts sing with love as the driving force, glory, glory, halleluiah! I do mean this wholeheartedly. You already built a solid foundation for a beautiful relationship and worked through trials and tribulations to remain peacefully with each other. You have your life mate and soul partner — many congratulations! Now, let’s stir some controversy. Relationships don’t always have to follow rules or creeds. Relationships can be as free and loving as you want them to be. If you feel restricted in a relationship with one who is the same religion or race, then that truly speaks volumes. You are entering a chapter in your life when ethnicity makes no difference as far as being completely in love. Stepping out of the box or comfort zone, regarding intimate relationships, might shape your views on what makes you sing with delight. For example, you’re a man who was always attracted to a certain type of woman, but now gravitating towards a lady whose features and physique are diverse. You seemingly get along very well and see her as a potential mate, your true partner, but are afraid of taking that risk. Let the fear stone pass! Despite the appearance of a person you would never consider attractive, sometimes the universe surprises us with mates that look (or think) differently from superficial notions. I heard stories of heterosexuals falling in love with their own gender for great same sex relationships. People who never dated outside their own race became instantly attracted to another through being touched, moved and inspired. Once shifting your focus, looking at things from different angles and other such enlightening perspectives, you find a person open and receptive to unconditional love, despite social, racial or educational distinctions. Opposites attract? It’s not unheard of. Pass the fear stone — accept, embrace and love someone who doesn’t fit a particular category or lifestyle! When two people come together on a spiritual level in the physical world, we tend to complain, reject feelings, or question the connection; however, there isn’t any use for resistance because the union naturally evolves and transcends! Receiving undivided attention and joy from someone who doesn’t fit your original idea might have immeasurable surprises. Dare to be different by rebelling against the status quo and mainstream. Reach out and begin new and fulfilling relationships. Moreover, loving another also begins with loving yourself. If detached from your true sense of self, attracting a special mate for commitment will not fall instantly into your lap. Take time and diligence to love your entire self. I am not speaking of narcissism but appreciate what you have, where you came from, and especially the person capable of love and being loved. Not loving yourself is the same as refusing to see love in anyone else. This brings up skepticism, self doubt, cynicism, feelings of failure and resorting to loneliness or disengagement. Prevent that from happening by believing your qualities are just as good as anyone else’s. Stand firm for realizing the truth that you are a being created by love, even if others state the contrary. Thereafter, a special someone appears out of the blue, maybe just around the corner, and enters your life for a wondrous relationship.

Politicians and government leaders of the world, take notice! What we need is to fully embrace and love one another, regardless of enemy lines, religious boundaries and ethnic viewpoints. It’s time to put wars and hostility to rest. Isn’t that what Jesus taught? Buddha? What about John Lennon? When are we finally laying down our arms so we can hug instead of drawing weapons? Whether it’s in the streets, over territories, in our classrooms, on the job — let’s stand up for peace once and for all!

How does fear impact finances? Do you know how many of us are fearful of money? It sounds crazy but, in fact, it’s increasingly evident on how we spend and save – not always with conviction or certainty. I admit to having fear of losing money, probably because I grew up in a “haves” versus “have nots” environment, as well as seeing my parents struggle to get by for many years. Since my early twenties, a fear of not having enough consumed my thoughts and behaviors to the point I was irresponsible and apparently fell into extreme financial debt. Even while approaching my fifties, to control finances, or eliminating the fear of not having enough, is a monumental task every so often. I had to embrace the truth that monetary resources are flourishing and never sufficient. I didn’t need any more or any less because of an abundant universe. Of course, who wouldn’t want to have some extra cash in the bank? However, there is a stigma that the less you work, the less you earn. Is overworking worth the point of fatigue and unhappiness as well as sacrificing personal time with friends, family and self? Definitely not! You are eternally blessed so explore other ways of creating finances rather than hoarding money, or spending carelessly, because of fear. Attracting prosperity comes in a myriad of ideas, not just one simple pathway. What about generosity? Even if you feel money is low, being generous opens many doors to your spiritual self benefiting mental and emotional points of view. For instance, thoroughly clean out closets, storage areas, trunks, attics, basements, and look for things not used in years. After sorting trash from salvageable, set up a garage/yard/apartment sale and generate funds that way. Or, if you dare to be bold, DONATE your old stuff! Give away used goods in decent condition for pickup at www.freecycle.org. You sign up by region (or locality) and offer what you don’t want or need. There is always someone looking for an item you think is rubbish. Or contribute to your nearest Goodwill or Salvation Army. Think of it as serving your higher purpose by donating surplus. Then, affirm with clarity and passion, you are highly capable of attracting money to your life and start to experience one windfall after another, eradicating fear of finances and gradually increasing cash flow.  Philanthropy, charitable donations, tithing, or even volunteer work are strong practices to generously benefit humanity and showing your fear of money as non existent. By donating up to 20% or more of one’s yearly income towards worthwhile causes, helping those in need without giving a second thought, the reward comes back to you in greater amounts. Also, be very grateful to anyone who graciously helps with errands, small favors, or anything else to lighten burdens in your life. How can faith eradicate fear? FEAR is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear keeps us from reaching unlimited potential. Fear is an illusion leading to hatred, prejudice, violence, rejection, hurt and suffering. FAITH is the acronym for Fulfilled and Insightful through Heaven.  Faith keeps us in tune with Source and aligned with inner truth. Faith is joy, loving, peaceful and abundant. Faith is also the reassurance that everything’s okay and there isn’t anything to fear.  What are you choosing today? In conclusion, passing fear stones is not complicated despite the pressures faced when dealing head on. You’re always supported by the Universe and its principalities and not alone in the process. We all have to pass fear stones during certain life stages with the presence of Divine help to get us through challenging times. Have faith! Views:]]>