Pamela Cummins helps with healing through a bad break up and how to fix the problem, even if it’s you!

Dear Pamela:

I am going through a bad break up and would like to know if we will get back together?

Sincerely,
Beth

Hi Beth:

I’m hearing the song “Upside Down” by Dianna Ross as I get a vision of a hamster on a wheel. I also am seeing a revolving door that keeps going around and around. My guides guided me to pull a tarot card and I pulled The Hermit card.  After pulling this card my guides said, “Nothing ever changes.” Now, I’m seeing a coach doing a time out sign.

To answer your initial questions, yes I see an opportunity for your mate wanting to come back. Honestly, I can’t get if your mate is a man or woman, what I feel is masculine energy. This is the second time I got a vision of a time out sign. What’s interesting is the coach has meaning too, which I will explain later. Let me explain everything that I have gotten so far. Your partner drives you crazy in a good and bad way, hence the upside down song. There are good things about the relationship, yet bad things. My concern is that this relationship is not moving forward, instead it is repeating the cycle over and over. Which is the meaning of the hamster on the wheel, revolving door, and my guide’s message of nothing ever changes. Obviously, you two are stuck in a pattern.
You need to take a time out and be alone. My guides said, “This is not the time to concern yourself with getting back together; focus on yourself.” Beth, you need to take some hermit time and look within to grow. I get a vision of you looking at your partner and holding your stomach. That could mean four things. First, you’re focusing on your partner too much. The other meaning is it is easier to look at your mate than yourself. The third symbolism you are stunting a rebirth within, preventing your self-growth, and not owning your power because you are focusing on your lover. Lastly, you could actually be pregnant.

My guides have given me a coach doing a time out sign for years, which is my symbol for take a time out. What I find interesting is this is the first time I got that sign for actually getting a coach. Your Angels and guides want you to have a coach, therapist, clergy person, or whatever professional would make you comfortable. I do feel you have done some personal growth work; however, it is time to go deeper into your inner work. This is not something you can do on your own, as I feel it is a deep block. The good news is you will work through it quickly.

Let’s look at your initial question again of will we get back together. Just so you know, this is a question I hear a lot, and hopefully you’re asking it helps someone else too. My guides are saying, “If it’s broken, fix it.” They are doing a reverse on the saying – if it’s not broken, don’t fix it. Beth, your relationship is broken. If it wasn’t you wouldn’t be in this predicament.  My question to you, “Is it worth fixing?” I’m hearing the standard – but, I love him. We can love someone who can be toxic to our health. Right now, your mate is toxic to your health, which is why you need a time out.
My guides are high lighting their fix what’s broken statement. I’m hearing the Serenity Prayer. You need to change your side in this relationship by cleaning up your side of the sidewalk. Once you do that, you can determine if you want to support him cleaning his sidewalk. I actually got a vision of you in front of your clean sidewalk, you cross the street to a man’s sidewalk, you almost start cleaning it for him, but step back, and watch him clean.

Now, here comes the hard part and my guides are validating that with saying part of the Serenity Prayer – accept the things I cannot change. Your mate has the choice of whether or not to accept the changed part of you to help manifest change within himself. To state it more clearly, it is up to your mate to want to change and grow. Sadly, sometimes when we grow our partner doesn’t want to change and we need to move on.

Honestly, I’m not getting a yes or no whether your mate will change to help the relationship grow. Beth, the important thing is not to repeat this relationship pattern by getting back together. Because before you know it, you will be where you’re at the present moment, again. I get a vision of a huge Angel pushing you forward on your growth path. I see two paths. Your current path of not changing and staying in the repeating pattern relationship that has lots of rocks and boulders with a dark sky. The path your Angel is directing you to is a smooth path with green grass fields and clear blue skies, as the Allman Brothers are singing their “Blue Sky” song.  My guides said, “With or without you.” I am interpreting that to mean you can choose to make your life happy with a good partnership. It could be your present mate if they choose to change or someone else who will grow with you.

Please send your love and relationship questions to pamelabellesprit@gmail.com Pamela Cummins aka “The Musical Psychic” is also a radio show host and coach. She is the author of Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships, Insights for Singles: Steps for Everlasting Love, and the FREE eBook Pamela’s Love Collection. To learn more, please visit www.pamelacummins.com