Pamela Cummins addresses manifesting a soul mate. Perhaps you should make a list of qualities you are looking for. Are you choosing the wrong one or are your standards too high?

Dear Pamela:

I often hear that singles should make a list of the qualities of what we desire in our soul mate to help materialize a relationship.  My question to you is shouldn’t God already know what I‘m looking for and what is best for me?

Thank you,
Ruby

Dear Ruby:

For some reason I am hearing Carol King sing her song “So Far Away.”  This song relates to your feeling that a soul mate is far away and never coming. I feel great sadness within you that needs to be let go of so joy may come into your life. You are tired of waiting for your partner. But what you don’t understand is that you’re blocking a soul mate from coming into your life by your lack of faith, looking for Prince Charming to rescue you, and not being happy with your present circumstances in life. I heard Aretha’s song “Rescue me,” please understand that a soul mate will not to save you like Prince Charming. You need to save yourself!

Yes, God knows what is best for us regarding a soul mate and every aspect of our lives. God has given us free will to make choices in our love life; your self-worth also plays a major part for soul mate selection. My guides said, “Loosely Goosey.” You may have ideas of what you want in a mate in your head; however, your thoughts are loosely goosey. In reality, you will accept whatever choice comes your way to stop you from being lonely.

My guides are showing me a large wad of cash and I see the word business. Let’s use this as an analogy for a soul mate. Now imagine if you have an idea to open up a business you want and where you see this business going, but you have not written down goals or even a business outline. This will leave you vulnerable to lots of scam artist and vultures. Someone may talk you into renting a huge space, when a part time space or working from home will suffice. Another person may convince you to hire and pay a webmaster to produce a website with all the bells and whistles, yet you could have used a website template to build it yourself for an eighth of the price. I could go on and on about how vulnerable a person is without doing some sort of planning for a business.
Now it’s time to go back to why it is important to make a list of what you need in a soul mate. The number one reason is that it is a courtesy to God. Yes, God knows who we are and what we desire in life. Yet, we still pray and talk to God to honor God. God deserves to be acknowledged, for your relationship with God is truly the most important relationship of all!

Another very important reason is it really clarifies what is in your mind. Our thoughts can seem so real, but when we put those thoughts on paper, we can see how ridiculous or important they are. My guides said, “Religion,” perhaps you hear your family tapes that he must be a certain religion, when you truly don’t care because there are more important things you truly care about. When you write a list of what you need in a partner it is just like writing down goals. And we all know that more items on a goal list get done when we write them down, instead of keeping the goals in our heads.

The soul mate list helps you to see important qualities that you may have left off the list. God can bring you a mate that has the majority of the qualities you thought of in your head except the one thing you forgot – single. So God brings you a married man. Hey, ask and you shall receive!

A client of mine once read me her list that had so many qualities that it would have been impossible for any human being to have. Which is why it is important to narrow it down. I often tell my clients after they make a list to find the top five non-negotiable on their list and to create a second list. I highly suggest that those five things are inner qualities because looks and incomes can change in an instant.

The last reason is making a list will help you manifest a mate quickly. When you meet or go out with a potential candidate it helps you to see their red flags or good qualities. You can light candles around your list or use it in Feng Shui. You can pray, meditate and/or visualize daily with it. You might want to put your list in a God Box, give it to someone you trust, or let it go by allowing it to float down a stream.

I heard – intention is everything. Please be clear in your intention and make sure you have those qualities on your list, too. In the meantime, enjoy your life.  God will bring your perfect mate that will have the majority of the qualities; just believe to receive.

Blessings,
Pamela

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